That's what I hope this column will be about — applying God's Word to the topic of dating, finding a spouse, and getting married. After this column, you have my word that I'll spend the next several months answering your questions (that is, when I have answers). I have to start by explaining the theological doctrine that drives the approach I want to outline (and advocate).
That doctrine is called the sufficiency of Scripture.
We usually start out pretty strong and that strength usually lasts about two weeks. One of the other problems we have faced is a general feeling of “cheesiness.” By that I mean that most of the studies we’ve tried have ended up leaving us feeling…well, cheesy.
I can’t pick one and put my finger on it; and perhaps it isn’t the study at all, but anytime we’ve tried to study God’s Word together and pray together on a regular basis, we have fought the “cheese factor.” One encouragement that I’ve found (that also serves as a discouragement) in my quest for an appropriate couples Bible study method is that most everyone else I know struggles with this too.
That truth has brought immeasurable emotional pain and other consequences to many Christians.
Worse, it has brought great dishonor to the name of Christ and to the witness of individuals and the church. For Christians, the Lord has given us his Word, and the Holy Spirit helps us to understand it.
As for men, it’s good to hear they’re loved and that they’re shown it by their spouse or girlfriend but more importantly, the crave respect.
To take some variation of the practices above and arbitrarily slap them onto a relationship can actually end up harming the relationship.That “” would obviously be the Lord God, Who has held together many marriages through biblical counselors and abiding in the Word of God together, as a couple.The Book of Ecclesiastes would make a great Bible study for couples but for married couples, the Song of Solomon might even be better. Women would tell you that it’s to be loved and not just told they’re loved but shown that they are.Some men are silent about expressing their love audibly while others are silent in expressing it by action.In the truest sense, women need to hear that they are loved but also to be shown that they are loved.I say that knowing that it might not be effective for you.