Space during dating

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Four zones make up the space around each person: intimate, personal, social and public, according to psychology professor Susan Krauss Whitbourne, in the "Psychology Today" article "Polish Off Your Personal Space." The intimate zone is reserved for loved ones, close friends and family, and is within 18 inches.The personal zone is from 18 inches to 4 feet, and is for those people you are getting to know.Facial expressions, tone of voice and the way she stands can all send a message as to whether she is open to affection or communication in the moment.For example, learning to read her cues as to when she wants to cuddle can benefit the both of you.Make a mental list of the characteristics that attracted you to her.For example, if she meets you at your house energized, full of joy and eager to share all the details of her afternoon horseback ride, you will be connecting with her through her conversation, not by sharing the actual activity with her. According to Patricia Farrell, author of "How to Be Your Own Therapist," the time invested in doing so is well worth it.It was about one year into our dating relationship when I sensed a difference in my boyfriend.

You've noticed that the girl you are dating doesn't seem to respond to your embraces the way she once did, or she seems overly irritated when you text her while she's out shopping with her friends. Jessica Du Long in a January 2007 "Psychology Today" article states that the most common complaints from couples about space issues involve how much physical affection each partner needs and how much time to spend with each other.You will save yourself possible feelings of rejection while she is less likely to feel annoyed or stifled.Encourage the girl you are dating to set boundaries, and then respect them.Sensing he must be hiding something, I finally asked him, “So, what’s wrong? ” He was flabbergasted that I was still thinking about it.Apparently to him asking for space was akin to asking to borrow a sweatshirt. This episode made me realize that men and women have radically different needs when it comes to managing together time in a romantic relationship.She may have difficulty expressing her needs to you and is acting them out instead by taking longer to return your calls or texts, making excuses to spend less time with you or being noticeably less intimate.

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