“When you start thinking, purpose is for me to orgasm,’ I’m like, ‘Thank you, God! But the goal of this distinctly conservative brand of “sex positivity” isn’t to defy the church or its doctrines — it’s to increase sexual intimacy by closely following the Bible’s teachings.
While most churches have avoided preaching pleasure from the pulpit, point to a range of scripture, but in episode after episode they return to the Old Testament’s Song of Solomon, which they say holds answers on everything from oral sex to bikini waxes.
While men traditionally have been the more unfaithful sex, gender roles are reversing in some cases as more women experience cybersex.
“I think there is this bias that women don’t cheat for sexual reasons at all,” Hertlein says.
Several studies suggest that even when there is no in-person contact, online affairs can be just as devastating as the real-world variety, triggering feelings of insecurity, anger and jealousy.
Unlike conventional therapy patients, these cyberchat addicts don't need to waste hours of time and thousands of dollars trying to overcome their "resistance." Pressured to produce a shocking, witty, outrageous or perverse persona lest they become cyberwallflowers, they regress on line instantaneously and seemingly universally.
As one participant explained: "You have to keep a person interested.
A few minutes into a rousing conversation about why women should try new sex positions, four sensible-sounding mom-types explain why “missionary” isn’t ideal for orgasming.
(The angle is all wrong.) The debate moves on to having sex on household furniture to keep things fresh and the pros and cons of “doggy style.” One woman advises, “You have to be willing to laugh when you try something new, and you have to be willing to fall off the bed.” Eventually, someone asks: What does the Bible have to say about sex positions?
In the wee small hours of the morning, they do not sit alone in a bar weeping into their beers.