Sometimes (okay, most of the time), though, first dates aren't smooth sailing.
That doesn't always mean you're incompatible — just that we are humans, and dating can be awkward.
But really, why wait and get emotionally involved only to have your heart broken when could’ve gleaned this information on the first date?
First dates can be exciting and awesome, but they can also be nerve-wracking, awkward, and pretty flippin’ weird.
A month later, they are driving us nuts as we get to know them, but now they have a sock drawer at our house and breaking up is so hard and complicated.
How did we get into this mess, and how can we avoid it next time? Boundaries are crucial on a first date, which is why it’s important to use the opportunity to gather information.
But the problem is, how do you meet them in the first place?
If nothing else, you’re bound to get some interesting answers. Maybe it’s about being with their pet dog in the backyard or the smell of their grandmother’s house. The best way to approach it is as a light-hearted thing by offering an example of your own. ” Or, “True fact, I didn’t learn how to tie my shoes until I was in high school.” It’s a way of letting your guard down and laughing at yourself, a very attractive quality, and an invitation for your date to do the same. What things would you save if your apartment were on fire?
Childhood memories are funny things: They reveal a lot about the way you think about the world, and the way you looked at it from a young age. As long as you’ve got a couple years to cushion you from it, it can be a time that’s rich with funny stories and little observations. What’s something you’ve been really proud of lately? Eating that super-hot chili on the “Dare You” menu at the local diner? If you’re going out together, it’s fair to assume that you and your date are both in the dating game. For me, it would be my photo albums and my childhood stuffed animal, but their question will tell you what they could not bear to lose. The goal of dates is to have a good time and figure out if you want to see more of this person.
Sure there are ways--bars, blind dates, dating services, online, etc.
But they all have their disadvantages and they take time..of it.
If you’re anything like me, the conversation will invariably turn to boring work stories and how much you’re addicted to guacamole.