For these guys to think they are above reply to another human being who has shown interest in them reflects a lack of humility.
They can’t take the time to say “No thanks but thanks for reaching out”?
With dating comes an unwritten code of behaviour, which is more commonly known as ‘Dating Etiquette’.
These women find something potentially valuable about me, and many of them clearly work as hard on their approach messages as I do on mine, trying to appeal to something in my profile that struck them, working to connect the dots and sell me on the idea that they’re really worth my while.
None of us likes to be rejected, and if we have any empathy about us at all we’re uncomfortable inflicting pain and/or embarrassment on someone – especially since that person’s only crime is thinking we’re kinda neat. When I first signed up for back in 2010 I didn’t know the rules. It turns out that I much prefer being ignored to being acknowledged in cases of rejection.
I remember feeling obliged, when I got a message from a woman who didn’t interest me, to try and craft a nice reply that didn’t make her feel bad about herself. If there’s no contact, it’s harder to take it personally.
On the other hand, be prepared to spend hours and hours learning how to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Here’s our crash course on the DOs and DON’Ts of cyberdating.
DO post a recent photo, and write an honest description of yourself.