It is time to take this control out of the hands of civil authority.The Heritage Foundations Family & Society Database catalogs social science findings on the family gleaned from peer-reviewed journals, books, and government surveys."When people of radically different yet connected traditions marry, perhaps they are imaging a new way of viewing life.It may seem disconcerting, but could it not also be a call to greater religious harmony? I would like to offer a few points for reflection based on my 30 years of experience as a priest who has been involved in many interfaith weddings.Here are a few highlights: “How do you break the routine of hook-ups and try to find a quality relationship? These kinds of benefits require trust—and trust takes time to build.” Think about what you want from a relationship: Mutual appreciation? This, to me, is one of the biggest problems with the hook-up culture: It skips over all the emotional relationship and trust building and jumps into a physical and very personal act without the emotional backup.My students aren’t sure what a hook-up really means, or how to find a lasting relationship when casual sex is the norm.
In a nearly-packed room in the basement of the Newman Center (and with Daily Iowan reporters there taking notes and snapping my picture) we had 90 minutes of questions, answers and discussion. In fact, the very first wedding I ever performed, over 30 years ago, was a Catholic-Jewish celebration. Not too long ago, it was very uncommon for people to marry outside of their religion. In fact, there was a time when even a marriage between an Irish Catholic and an Italian Catholic was frowned upon. Today it is very common to find our children wanting to marry someone of a different faith.To prepare for the talk, I attended at Thursday 10 p.m.Mass where about 75 committed Catholic undergrads served as a focus group: After I explained why I thought it was important for issues of sex and dating to be address within the Church, I asked students to put their anonymous questions on index cards.This past Sunday I gave a lecture on sex, dating and relationships at the Newman Center at the University of Iowa.