Keep dating commitment phobes

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In retrospect, I know that when I was young, I saw some unhappiness which I came to associate with family and settling down.I remember promising myself that I would never let that happen to me-that I would never settle down to become an unhappy person.I’m pretty sure you’re aware of this, but just in case, here’s why: you cannot attract someone who will love you for who you are when you’re afraid to be your true self, are holding yourself to impossible standards, or are putting up with shadiness in the name of being ‘nice’ and ‘loving’.The other thing is that people pleasing and perfectionism have already been proven to not work for you—there’s a better, easier way to live and love: becoming more of who you really are by breaking the faux rules you’ve written for your life, confronting your emotional baggage so it’s stops running you, and choosing wellbeing over pleasing.When this is the case, therapy can often uncover and address any issues that may have contributed to these feelings, and the individual may be able to work through them and achieve the connection desired.Commitment issues experienced within the context of an intimate relationship setting may be the result of attachment insecurity, which can manifest with three different thought patterns and behaviors: People with commitment issues may agree to a long-term relationship at first and then begin to slowly withdraw from the relationship months, weeks, or even days later.

Individuals with commitment issues may experience mental distress and emotional difficulty when faced with situations that require dedication to a particular long-term goal.The promises that children make to themselves are very powerful-the small seeds that become very large manifestations later in life.Every time I drove in the car, I would imagine myself flying outside the window.When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a teacher, then a detective (like Columbo or Jessica Fletcher, ahem), and then a writer.Many moons later, and here I am teaching people who are tired of emotional unavailability, toxic relationships, and feeling 'not good enough', how to reduce their emotional baggage so that they can reclaim themselves and make space for better relationships and opportunities.I also love playing detective and helping solve 'cases' like relationship patterns and shady situations.

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