My question is this: How long is it necessary to wait before getting back into the dating scene?
I should mention I have two small children and I don’t want to rush anything.
Congratulations, Ann, on having the courage to leave a situation that was making you miserable.
I must admit, I’ve never fully understood the psychology of abuse – and how people who are objectively treated poorly choose to remain in relationships – but I’m glad you’ve broken free.
You are perceived as being a challenge to get your time and attention, thus, making you more desirable.
In an ideal post-divorce world, the itch to re-partner would not arise until you are actually ready to deal with it.Answering the question how long before dating after a divorce really depends on the individual.The way one person deals with the trauma of a marital breakup may be completely different from another."To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace" (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8).For most ex-spouses, the wise choice is to wait until the initial shock and trauma of marital dissolution can dissipate.Last week I made the decision to end my 7-year marriage because of physical and emotional abuse.