This book is designed to help you do both of these things effectively." -Gary Chapman With more than 10 million copies sold, The 5 Love Languages® continues to strengthen relationships worldwide.
The problem is, as Chapman puts it, ‘’seldom do a [couple] have the same primary emotional love language.’’And this sets the stage for all sorts of miscommunication: moments where a couple try to express their love to one another but end up missing the signals that mean ‘‘I love you.’’ When someone is important to us, we naturally want to let them know how much they matter – and it can be frustrating when they don’t appreciate our efforts in the ways in which we expect.Chapman’s book is dangerous because it’s not about the language of love, it’s about the language of co-dependence. The premise of the book is that we feel loved when love is expressed in our particular love language: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. My wife and I have our preferences, as all of us do.Here’s the danger: The book unconsciously champions the notion that a good relationship is one in which each person depends upon the other to make them feel loved, happy and special. We depend on each other for happiness and fulfillment.Many of us desire all of these things, but usually, one or two may be more strong than the others.So you may like gifts, but what you really want is quality time.A forgotten birthday or a carelessly chosen Christmas present is likely to leave you in a funk afterward.