I was about to be homeless, jobless and had no idea what my next move was. I cannot tell you how good it felt to be asked out in person. I don’t think you should persuade someone to marry you in three weeks if the feelings aren’t completely mutual.]For us there was no convincing. It also helped that our values were perfectly aligned. We texted our closest friends on morning of Sunday, July 13th, 2014. We didn’t date for 1 years before he proposed to me on one knee during a trip to the coast.My wife and I had our first date in April, were engaged at the end of May, and married in August, 45 happy years ago.Five months: "We were in love and wanted to start the rest of our lives together.We are both really happy with how fast everything happened.If it isn't there, there's no way to make it happen.
How long did you date your partner before he or she popped the question?We were both in unhealthy, on & off, long term [and long distance in my case] relationships. We both knew the couple getting married so it wasn’t awkward. When I was around him I didn’t think about anyone else, I didn’t want to look at my phone, and I didn’t think about how the life I had known for the last four years was falling apart right under me. I was constantly being told how great of a guy he was and how much he was admired by people that I knew and trusted.“Elena, if you elope…I will cut you a fat check.” My dad was a wonderful man, but he had terrible luck with women. You decide to stay together because you are inconvenienced by the thought of starting over with someone new.He and his girlfriend were on a break at the time, and my boyfriend was living in another country. But I remember our friends at the wedding looking at us and thinking…That night he told me he loved me and that he was going to marry me. Before he passed away he was married 5 times, to 4 different women. Divorced her when I was 6 then remarried her shortly after. You know that you are not right for each other and you’re wasting your time. What we had was beautiful and we didn’t want it to change.It really depends on the people involved, and the reasons why they get married when they do. Most people realize that you shouldn’t get married too quickly after meeting someone, and the one long-term study I’ve found on the subject seems to back that up.There are a couple of reasons why a short dating period can cause problems in marriage: Marriage is really about commitment, so the real question is whether you are willing to commit to this person for the rest of your life, and whether you can trust them when they say they’re willing to do the same. Now, sometimes you can trust them more quickly if other trustworthy people have known the person through close community for a long time, and can vouch for them.That’s actually the preferred situation, because then you have multiple sets of eyes confirming that this person is who they appear to be.