“It doesn't have to be framed as a breakup,” says Davila.It’s an old platitude, but it’s true: Breaking up is hard to do. Breaking up with someone you aren’t even really dating, technically. Particularly if you want to end things–after all, breaking up is, by most people’s definition, the act of ending a relationship.Sure, ghosting might be OK if you’re in the early stages of messaging but after you’ve been on a date, most people would say that’s just rude.And after how many dates do you have to end it in person rather than with a perfectly-worded message? Fortunately, Joanne Davila, Ph D and author of , has revealed what she believed to be the answer to our troubles.“I’m not a god damned mind reader.” The fade “is cowardly and at its root, dishonest.” If only the uninterested party would clarify its position in an explicit text, “I will feel validated that you had enough deference for whatever we had (even if it was just one night) to know that it needed to be ended in a mature and thoughtful manner.” As someone who has been in the position of both the fader and the faded, I respectfully disagree.No matter which side of the phone I am suddenly not texting from, I prefer the unanswered text to the explicit breakup missive.Here’s how it works: You go out with someone anywhere from once to a handful of times.
Image source:i Stock Controversial opinion, I know, but I'm a pretty ardent supporter of executing a breakup vis-à-vis text message--under the right circumstances, of course.
Have you ever thought about sending a text message break up? As text message use becomes more common, incidents of breaking up by cell phone are on the rise.
Is it an acceptable way to break up, or just plain rude?
- actual boyfriends or girlfriends, but many millennials seem only ever to be “seeing someone.” It’s a concept our parents just don’t understand.
How do you break up with someone if you’re not even in a relationship?
It doesn’t take a genius to work out that the longer you’ve been dating someone, the more you owe them a proper break-up.