The behaviors listed below are all very strong signs of an abusive (controlling) disposition, that might still be apparent even when a primary aggressor is 'trying to be nice.' Intensity and High Involvement Controlling partners usually seem to immediately organize their lives around you.
This is flattering even if the 'too-muchness' is recognized.
It should be emphasized at the outset that no one should be blamed for having an abusive partner.
The energy and attentiveness provided in the 'courtship phase' of such a relationship will feel good to anyone.
While it's not always practical to become friends before dating someone, try to get to know your date through a group activity or a double-date before you go solo.
But while abuse often escalates to physical violence, it does not start out that way.He will make you feel like you are his entire world -- because he wants your world to revolve around him.Of course, just being romantic is not necessarily a sign of abuse. He will say that it's love at first sight, that you are made for each other, and that he can't imagine his life without you.Trust your instincts: If something doesn't seem right about the person, do not share your contact information and leave the situation immediately. Even if it's a little annoying, let your mom, dad or another adult know when you’re going out.Be sure to tell your parents who you're going with, where you plan to go and what time you expect to return home, too.There is also some overlap between abusive and narcissistic behavior, the latter of which is not addressed directly on this website.