It does not mean that they are bad people; sex is simply a natural thing for young people to have experienced in Denmark.
You have sex-ed all through primary and high school, and it’s normal for Danish parents to let their teenagers’ boyfriends/girlfriends sleep over as well.
I just now came across an article where an American woman recommended Danish men to study Bond, James Bond. Unlike Americans, Danes and Scandinavians in general, don’t wear their medals on their sleeve.
Do not expect them to pursue you like there was no tomorrow.
Not long ago, a TV journalist posed the following question on a couple of Danish expat websites: “What’s it like dating Danes? Danes love to flirt for the fun of it, so don’t read too much into that.
” So I took a look at the comments you made and thought I’d add my five cents in the hope that I can encourage you all to ‘hang in there’ when you’re ready to throw in the towel. Plus Danes really aren’t used to being forward, so they just feel things out for a (very) long time.
There is no “formalized” dating structure in Denmark, no unwritten rules about who-calls-who or who-pays-on-the-date?
But just because they send mixed signals, doesn’t mean you have to.
Play your own game, not theirs, and if you don’t catch them, then go and find another.
Furthermore they don’t consider it weird (quite the opposite) to shamelessly flirt to the point that any normal human being would consider it a sign they’re into you.
My advice to any foreign woman here is to forget whatever rules you thought applied. There are no fouls, no outs, no red cards and of course no rule books.
Having grown up in Sweden I spent many summer sailing in Denmark, so I have spent plenty of time mingling with the Danes. In Denmark there is a very strong sense of equality between men and women. So don’t expect the guy to walk up to you on a party and buy you a drink. There’s a sense of fairness – you do your bit around the house, they do theirs.