Shutterstock When I was younger, during my college days, my friends and I swore that we would never date a man with children. Like me, he was interested in making healthy lifestyle choices.This was mainly because growing up in my neighborhood, we were only accustomed to one type of single dad, and that was one who was barely present in his child’s life–an irresponsible I felt this way until I met a guy I really liked, only to find out that he had kids. We talked every day through phone calls and text messages. He was also an educated man who loved and looked fantastic in a good suit.He was still a person, and I would feel bad if I didn’t give him a chance just because he had a kid. However, I learned there was another child later on, an infant only six months old.I had to do the math because something wasn’t adding up.I also make sure that the man is open to children and that he's right for me before I worry about him being right for my son.Maria I recently got out of a 14-month relationship with a divorced man who has a now 4-year-old son, Dylan.You can still date someone with children, but there is a way to be responsible without affecting the child.It is important to remember that you are dating him, his kids. If it’s just a casual situation or the beginning stages where the two of you are still trying to figure each other out, there’s no need to stress or obsess over his responsibilities. For those of you dating with kids, I understand that sometimes you don’t disclose that information because you want to have a social life and would like to keep certain things separate, but honestly, everything will eventually overlap once things pick up with the person you are dating.
Even though my friends and I swore that we would never date men with children, I’m learning that having kids doesn’t automatically make you unsuitable for dating.
For example, when at home everyone gets along and does activities together, but in public the child may ignore the step parent and keep a distance.
The reason is because being in public is a less frequent occurrence when compared to being at home in private.
We exchanged account names for social media, and I learned through his Instagram that he had a daughter. I thought about what I had said when I was in college: A man with kids is a no-no. I don’t want to be groomed to be a child’s stepmother.
But then I had to think about dating from the perspective of a parent.
Same thing applies to a woman dating a guy with kids, by the way. ” when Tom Cruise says to Cuba Gooding Jr., “Can I ask you a question? Scott was a single guy dating a woman with kids, ended up marrying her and says he couldn’t be happier.