If you’re separated but not divorced, dating is a tricky subject.
On one hand, it’s natural to want to find companionship and move on from your marriage.
As a dating coach/expert, what do you think of the idea of dating someone who is still in the process of divorce?
Do you advise your clients to take the date or run as quick as possible?
You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.
Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.
I don’t have a wide network of people where I live, so I’m online.
What I’ve noticed is that no woman seems to want to touch me with a 10 foot pole because I’m ‘separated.’ My divorce is pending and will be finalized in September (it’s written better in the profile).
I’m not looking to rush back into a marriage, but I’m looking to date with an intent on finding a relationship.
Also, it seems that about 40% of the men who state they are divorced are actually still going through the process. That stated, I have come up to some heavy objection from both family and friends – hence I’m here.
They have given many examples of relationships that began quickly after a separation/break-up, so I am beginning to wonder if I am selling myself short – being too rigid.
Read this email I received from a reader who is having problems in online dating because he is separated–not officially divorced.
My divorce is amicable and I maintain a good relationship with my ex.
You can’t date until you’re both sure it’s over and you’re not harboring a secret desire to get back together. You need some time and space to fall in love with yourself again first and foremost.