He suggested that I could try being completely open with the reasons that I like him, which might make him feel more secure. It’s very important to me that I find someone that I can collaborate with, formulate ideas with, and just make shit with. After I told him all this, Tim seemed genuinely confused and taken aback. Jocelyn talked about how vulnerable we are to our friends’ opinions. I feel bad that I’m confused about what I want, but after what happened the other night, I’m even more defensive about it. If she could just ease up on the gas a bit, then I’d be more willing to come around. My friends only hear the highlights once a month, but they don’t hear about all those long, tireless innings full of eating bad food and drinking beer alone in the stands. My therapist reminded me how insecurity is at the core of the fear of commitment. Last but not least, we work great together creatively. We talked about Jessie quitting the experiment, and what happened a couple days ago. Jessie was very open today about being interested in me. For example, if I can use the “Baseball Metaphor” in a different way: watching baseball is long and boring and the excitement spreads over 9 innings, but if you catch the highlights on ESPN then you get to see all the action jammed into a two-minute span.When she mentioned they'd gone to second base, we all had different ideas about what it involved.I'd love to get your input on the bases-as-sex definitions. Here are the generally agreed upon basics: First Base: Getting to first base usually means kissing or making out. Whenever I chat about this topic (which is really quite often) there's always a bit of disagreement when it comes to second and third.He is fun to hang out with, and we always have a great time together. I reminded him that I understood the risks, and thought that we were both over thinking things. Tim definitely meets most of the criteria for being a commitment-phobe. How do you feel about this relationship/project right now? I want to have fun with this all, no matter what happens. While I am still not feeling well, I’m realizing how much a positive outlook can help. He knows all my feelings about him now, so the ball is really in his court. That being said, when I was dating I found that if a relationship was going well, it became sexual pretty quickly. One movie line that I chuckle at is from "Waiting", when Ryan Reynolds says ".. Either they won't sleep with you.then there's really no reason to ever call them again. .then there's really no reason to ever call them again.
And I'm thrilled that a sport I actually understand plays host to some of the best sexual innuendo around.But he always reverts back to his old ways the next time we kiss.I like this guy, but kissing is the first level of physical intimacy; if we can’t get this right, I’m not sure I can keep seeing him. —KB, San Diego, California The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox Oddly enough, your description conjures up an image of Jim Carrey’s character in The Mask. Everyone has a reputation in one way or the other, but do you ever get to hear about yours unsolicited? He’s in a serious relationship, and during our conversation, something dawned on me: All my friends who are in serious relationships think being single is just NON-STOP fun. Jocelyn brought up an interesting point: How often do you ever get to hear what people really think about you?I had a friend tell me once that he made out with this guy in a bar we’d both met at the same time.