When he suggested putting everything on ice, it was an amazing feeling of being terrified and what I wanted."Anna, 32, was 25 when she told her family she was trying a separation."They were all supportive," she remembers."Within weeks, I'd realised that it wasn't just wedding pressure, it was the relationship."If you're that far down the this-isn't-working-for-me road, you've pretty much made up your mind.You just don't have the courage to say so."Sometimes people find it easier to turn the problem into a process instead of solving it with a clean-cut declaration.It was horrible to end it permanently, but the best thing I did."She believes a trial separation is "a respectful starting point – the idea is you don't break up".It's a starting point that actors Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas, who have reportedly separated to "evaluate and work on their [13-year] marriage", find themselves confronted with.Three months before Anna's wedding, she had a trial separation from her fiancé. Anna remembers: "I hadn't been happy for quite a long time and made every excuse: I wasn't doing enough sport, I needed to spend more time with friends – dancing round the obvious issue. Her partner of four years suggested they put the guests, the caterers and the venue on hold and give each other space.
He may seek revenge to compensate for the anger, hurt, and embarrassment that he feels you have caused him.Consider it pressing the pause, not the stop, button.as it's called specifically for married couples — might make it seem like a couple is committed to salvaging a flagging relationship, several experts said it just delays the inevitable."When most people say they want a break, what they're really saying is, 'I want to break up but I don't know how to do it,'" said Los Angeles-based dating coach Evan Marc Katz.Christine Northam, relationship counsellor for charity Relate, says 5 per cent of her clients consider trial separations.Penny Mansfield, director of relationship charity One Plus One, suggests the rich and the famous "have to account for themselves if they are going through a rough patch", which may lead to more trial separations.They include an attorney, chef, coach and publisher.