by Scott Croft Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of Scott's first article in this series, "Biblical Dating: An Introduction." * * * A promise is a promise.
Last time I appeared on this site, I said that I would lay out my position on biblical dating and then turn it over to all of you to determine the rest of the column's topics by your questions. As many of you will know from the Boundless blog, The Line, the last piece generated many posts and comments, from the challenging to the supportive, the general to the specific.
How can you say definitively that other things are wrong? Shouldn't our physical relationship "progress" as other aspects of our relationship deepen? I understand most physical stuff is wrong, but what about just kissing? With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.Those are important ingredients when it comes to building a lasting relationship and laying a firm foundation for a successful marriage. It's an arrangement within which spouses have to learn how to cooperate, work together, and hammer out mutually satisfactory compromises.But in a situation like yours it's still important to think things through on a deeper level. Because in the final analysis the challenge you're facing is bigger than a mere difference of "religious opinion." It's not just a question of your willingness to "tolerate" someone else's beliefs. And when worldviews collide, the results can be devastating for a marital relationship. They have to do this on an almost daily basis, and in response to a wide variety of practical problems. As an atheist, you assume that there is no higher authority. As far as you're concerned, it's just a question of "what works." But your Christian girlfriend has a very different perspective.All of these topics will, Lord willing, be covered in future columns.It's simply impossible for me to address all of the fantastic individual questions and comments we've received, but know that we will do our very best to incorporate as many as possible into the columns themselves and the blog discussions that follow. Quite a few of you asked questions or made comments about my statement in Biblical Dating, an Introduction that "Biblical dating assumes NO physical intimacy" outside of marriage.Can an atheist and a believer build a strong, lasting marriage? Her family loves me and everyone else says we're the perfect couple.