The "booby prize" in life is trying to understand or change the behavior of an emotionally unavailable person.
Avoiders believe that they must rely on themselves alone to meet their own needs The buried traumas of the past let avoiders function pretty effectively in their daily lives, at least at the surface.
because people who are sex addicts do not know how to relate in an intimate (close) relationship in an open and comfortable way.
Not only are sex and intimacy detached from one another they are not even in the same neighborhood.
Intimacy is an essential part of love relationships.
It is the ability to share all parts of ourselves (our thoughts, our bodies, our feelings), to be vulnerable, and to be honest about what is going on inside of us.
Have you ever met someone who "romantically" knocked you off your feet -- as in "Hi Mom and Dad...