Over at “Mormon Game,” there’s a piece this week that is so craptastically from a different century that it seems like satire but regards itself with utter seriousness. In it, a Mormon man chides single Mormon women for their singleness. So: single Mormon women over the spritely age of 19 . THANK GOODNESS that this author has provided 7 tips for you based on his life experience and observations. The window of opportunity for birthing children becomes shorter, they become jaded and lose their cheerful visage, and they become stuck in a lifestyle that makes a family less practical. Would you date the old career women who doesn’t [sic] have time for a date except on Saturdays, or the sprite 19 year old who eagerly awaits what’s ahead of her? We don’t want you to you lose your cheerful visage!Collins exactly like him.) He begins his article with a stark reminder of the statistics about how much more difficult it is for you to find husbands than it is for Mormon men to find wives, and how severely outnumbered you are demographically. A lot of this is due to the fact that you read dangerous feminist blogs and fantasize that Heavenly Mother is real.But sisters, if you’re imagining that his acknowledgment of reality will spark compassion for the impossibility of your situation . It’s probably just because your aging female brains desiccate at such an alarming rate that you get these ridiculous ideas about gender roles.The Church has a great pamphlet called “For the Strength of Youth”.There are two sections that apply to this conversation, the one on dating and the one on sexual purity.I’d like to expand on part of it: “To be sure, the Mormon dating scene at BYU—or in Utah in general—will never be confused with Sex and the City.As I said, premarital sex is still taboo for Mormons.
I have a particular interest in this as I have a daughter in her late 30s that was widowed last year due to cancer, and she lives in Utah County.The important thing is to compare ourselves to the correct standards.God has given us clear standards in regards to dating, morality, and sexual purity.I really really wish what I was about to say was made up. I was unsure what it would be like to live in the Mormon mecca, aka Salt Lake City, but since moving here I'm very pleasantly surprised and happy to report that it's not as weird as you may think. There's these funny little things like having to buy real beer (more than 3.2% alcohol) at a state liquor store, everyone is married with children even if they're significantly younger than me, and there's a rather schizophrenic personality to the citizens: you're either Mo-Mo and happy-go-lucky or you ain't and you're damn fucking proud of it. Heaven help them, they're hell bent on staying a virigin. Add to it that it's forbidden and now you have a group of hormonally-saturated, unfulfilled virginal, twenty-something-year-olds going off to college, namely Brigham Young University. So here it is: because Mormons are against pre-marital sex, many of the "good" Mormons make it to their twenties as virgins. You have "soaking," that is, you put your dick in her vagina but you don't move. But it doesn’t have to be that way, and I think discussing that relationship can be informative- and talking about it openly can help us identify ways to encourage healthier attitudes and behaviors surrounding sex. Recently Time magazine published an excerpt of a new book, Dateonomics, which provides research and analysis on gender ratios and their effect on romantic relationships in America today, arguing that there’s currently a surplus of women with not enough men to go around.