Here is Scott’s guest post that gives us a glance at the transition from single guy to married guy with step kids, and all the wonderful things that can happen if you are open-minded, have insight into what the kids are going through, and just give it time. But if you keep in mind what the kids went through, you will have a better understanding and be a great step parent.Step Parenting – From Frustration to Love by Scott Trick Almost a year ago I went from being single to married with two step kids. Frustration One of the frustrations a step parent can experience is the fact that the step child does not know how to act in public with his or her new step parent.Source: Shutterstock After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child’s point of view, one commenter asked an interesting question: “Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?” First, whether a man has children of his own or not, there is nothing wrong with preferring to date women without children.As with anything new, practice is needed or in this case just feeling comfortable with this new situation.After time, the child will feel more and more comfortable and frustration will lessen.
You most likely really, really like the woman (or love her) and you are smart enough to realize that with her, comes her children. Same is the case with Scott Trick, Divorced Guy Grinning’s guest blogger.Either way, the connection to the children is just as important as the bond to their parent.Remember you are dating the person, but the children will be a big part of the relationship, and it is imperative that you take the time to cultivate the relationship with them as well.While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.Her time is limited, and much of her energy goes toward taking care of her kids.