New infections are typically not the result of some insane night at a meth-fueled sex party or a boozy night at the baths. Living with HIV is not a toxic horror show of medications Yes, HIV usually requires medications and doctor visits. With so many options for HIV drug therapies, side effects have been reduced drastically and ones in development will reduce them even further.It happens, sure, but that doesn’t make good ‘ol fashioned sex any safer. Poz guys are not weeping every morning as they chug down pills with their morning coffee. HIV infection does not automatically turn guys into dangerous liars One of the most unfortunate misconceptions about positive guys is that they outright lie about their status just to get laid, or worse, are on a mission to infect others.When Donald Sterling dissed Magic Johnson for being promiscuous and unworthy, it was nothing new for people living with HIV. A lot of those misconceptions persist today, even (or maybe especially) among gay men.Our attitudes can be hurtful, stigmatizing, and even contradictory.And yet the truth is that the majority of new infections occur within “primary relationships,” such as a lover or boyfriend, and usually because one partner did not know he was infected and then transmitted HIV to his partner.That’s why there’s such intense focus on getting tested and doing it regularly.
If we see them as extremists it helps the rest of us feel more secure in our own choices. Remien, I am currently in a relationship with an HIV- man. My partner would like to further our sexual relationship and include anal sex.I realize that a condom should always be used and it is.... I think the best research data we have at this time comes from studies of HIV serodiscordant couples in Africa (relatively large sample).The line of thinking about dating is that it might be the... Others feel that not telling relatives will weaken their relationships and may keep them from getting the emotional support and love that they want. That has never been an issue for me nor my past partners.Nowadays I got involved with another HIV guy who Read more » Can anyone else share my agony? I am an attractive woman but I am having extreme difficulty meeting other positive men to date.HIVequal.org: How to Date an HIV-positive Guy offers the ‘rules’ and ‘reactions’ to dating openly in the 21st century in this article chronicling one man’s search for love as an HIV-positive gay man.