As the only straight woman within reach, I soon became the de facto dating consultant for my male friends, despite my waning expertise.They were even more eager to pick my brain on all things female when I started working as an engineer and data scientist at Ok Cupid, where I analyzed data from millions of daters to get a sense of the “correct” way to date for men, women, and everyone in between.As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.Never married, she has a son James, now 13, by a man she parted from before her son was born.Ruthie has been looking for a boyfriend for the past decade.
The idea that there aren’t any quality men is a myth. Why do you hold on to this as if it were truth; like it’s a reality of life that you must endure?Yours will too.) Here are your action steps: • Write your list of qualities, values, and behaviors that attract you and that you expect in a man with whom you spend time.• Review your list and decide: does this man exist?With no relatives nearby to watch my son, my dating life is restricted to Monday nights and alternate weekends.The schedule makes intimacy difficult and the dating (and mating) dance tends to be, well, not very easy.‘Forty is a huge cut-off point for a lot of men,’ Ruthie explains.