In this chapter we’re going to look at the godly way to find a husband or wife.We’ll contrast the modern dating culture with godly dating practices.Both parties are stuck spinning their wheels and pointing the finger — and this, since the dawn of time. The only way it will change is if we both take a few broken, messy, hard steps and find each other in the in-between.You barely get into Genesis before it happens — “It was this woman you gave me! Let’s be honest, let’s be open, and let’s have soft hearts. Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner.There are lively debates around courting vs dating for Christian singles to consider.
Once, at a meeting of single, twentysomething evangelical Christians (sort of like an episode of one of my girlfriends described her romantic encounter with Jesus the night before.Courting is pursuing another Christian to become equally yoked and preserving sex for marriage alone.In contrast, dating is pursuing non-believers and including sex in your relationship before marriage.Often, these courtships led to successful marriages that lasted lifelong.Fast forward to today’s dating scene and we see surface-level connections, one night stands, and high divorce rates.First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.