Hi Carolyn: This weekend, I am set to meet my first blind date -- someone I met on one of those online dating sites.
The man in question has been lovely to email and chat with on the phone -- we get along quite well.
I returned home and never said anything about the incident to my boyfriend of almost 10 years.
I am now at a point in my life where I want to seriously start considering marriage, however I feel racked with guilt that I allowed myself to be put in such a precarious situation, and that I have never told the one I love.
Her father, now retired, was director of research planning at Sikorsky Aircraft in Stratford, CT.I'm worried that, when I meet him in person, something about him physically will totally turn me off.I'm afraid I'm going to find out that I'm shallow or superficial.That's the old I'm-not-a-racist-but-everyone-else-is dodge. I mean, you've had over 20 years with the guy; I find it hard to believe there's been no indication this was coming.At the same time, though, one's own children and their choices can test our beliefs with a force that little else can. You have to do better than "because they are" if you want him to do better than "uncomfortable feelings." Ask him how he'd feel if a woman's parents saw your son as an inferior match for their daughter based on his skin color alone.On a night on the town, I was drugged and ended up being fondled and kissed by a man my group had met earlier in the day at a bar.