I (51F) am terrified of the idea of letting untreated mental illness ruin his life, how do I get him to seek help?my (23m) girlfriend (24f) of 1 year started a physical fight last night and ended up getting punched by a guy.I cringed a little internally — it seemed rather fast — but told him that if he was really interested in a monogamous, exclusive relationship, I’d be willing to give it a go.He pondered that and said that maybe he’d jumped the gun after all.I was sitting at a diner with one of my closest friends, and she presented me with a solution: set up an Ok Cupid account. There were times when I would get frustrated and would delete my account completely.
I went through a vicious cycle of deleting and undeleting my account, ultimately deciding that the only option was to have hope.
It is in no way your fault that they chose to misbehave.
But you have to improve your marriage behavior if you want success. The first reaction in your mind, when you make such a harsh threatening discovery is going to be self-protective, accompanied by fear; these are primal.
But, its truly a mistake to take those actions as indictments of who they “really” are.
They are individuals, who you married, for better or worse, who succumbed to rampant temptations (not excusing them).
" was a good seal-the-deal line at the end of the night.