I was even specific about the exact location—“We met at the Starbucks in downtown Brea, right next to the Corner Bakery.” I did my best to keep my wife’s friends away from my friends at mutual gatherings, too.This is because she was honest with her friends and family about how we met. We got married on a beautiful yacht, overlooking Newport Beach, CA. Except for how much I was freaking out about my friends potentially finding out that I lied to them about how I met the woman I’m marrying.Aziz explains in the introduction that he’s never had interest in writing a humor book because he “thought stand-up was the best medium for [him].” Instead, he developed an obsession with the modern dating landscape and decided to write a book about that, collaborating with a sociologist Eric Klinenberg to conduct an enormous amount of research on dating and relationships.compiles numerous anecdotes from his stand-up, their focus groups, and a subreddit they set up, as well as studies and conversations with prominent psychologists and relationship experts., Aziz Ansari tackles relationships on all the major fronts: marriage, having babies, meeting people, online dating, and dick pics.
But now we want our partner to still give us all these things, but in addition I want you to be my best friend and my trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot, and we live twice as long. Ideally, though, we’re lucky, and we find our soul mate and enjoy that life-changing mother lode of happiness.
With that in mind, my skeptical, dating-averse brain began automatically scanning the book for awful advice.
I’m hardly qualified to do so, considering the following: I am in a relationship that predated the rise of Tinder; I used Ok Cupid for roughly a week at a time at six-month intervals during my single years; I once told three guys I was shutting down my Ok Cupid account in large part because I couldn’t think of a more tactful way to avoid seeing them again (they were so nice! And then I actually shut down my Ok Cupid account so I wouldn’t be a liar.
Hearing a rich and famous young dude talk about about how he’s “fucking white girls” and would never have let himself be molested can be sort of a bummer, while watching the same dude take a young guy to task for proposing during lunch is an unadulterated joy.
Dating, sex, and love are all crazy all the time for everyone, and by getting out of his own necessarily limited perspective and incorporating other people’s real nonsense into his own act, feels more relevant and important that Ansari’s past specials.
Far and away the funniest parts of occur when Ansari interacts with the crowd, picking out regular people and asking them about their proposal stories and the sexts they’ve received.