With our kids, we could never stop them from liking somebody—nor would we want to. Well, this just makes sense, but the numbers were extraordinary. You say, “Well, one of the reasons why is there is not too many years left before they graduate.” Well, it’s more than that. See, one year of my life is just a small little proportion of it, but when I was back to twelve, thirteen years old, when it represents 8%-9% of your life, well, that’s a lot of growing up.
If your kids starts at twelve years old dating somebody, they have a 93% chance that they are going to lose their virginity by high school. And so, when you have your kids wait until they are older, you set them up to make far better choices, be able to resist more, and have a better goal in mind for what they want to have when they finally get married. Dads, it’s our job to run interference for our kids.
We need to sit our boys down when they start to date, and tell them, “This is what I expect of you when you take a girl out. You don’t take her to parties where there’s drugs or alcohol or anything she is going to be exposed to that is going to undermine her.
You don’t have to be cleaning your guns and all that stuff.
I believe it’s important to step back from the pressures around you and take a good look at the whole issue of dating. I hope that by giving you such a full answer, it will open your heart to the counter-cultural approach I am proposing to you regarding romance, dating and courtship.
The Purpose of Dating: What is the purpose of dating?
Around ages 15 or 16, boys' voices will lower and facial hair will appear. Back to top Teens are better able to solve problems, think about their future, appreciate opinions of others, and understand the long-term effects of their decisions. " teens listen to new music, try out clothing fashions, and begin to explore jobs, religion, political issues, and social causes.
We require doors to be open in the family room (or wherever they are) when he’s over, but I can’t be aware every time she sees him or when she’s out with friends.Teach your teen how to say no and to suggest doing something different (safe).To feel comfortable talking openly with you, your teen needs to know that you will not punish him or her for being honest. Knowing this limitation eliminates verbal boxing matches. Unlike the singing talent show, we don't eliminate our sons or daughters. We remember their dreams, cheering their wins and comforting their losses. Each week one or more contestants are sent home until the last two compete in the finale.Dear Kim, Thank you for your excellent question and for your patience in waiting for my response!