It is indeed complicated to explain the ambiguous, complicated and often opaque process by which French men and women pair off.“It just kind of happens”In the words of 36-year-old Laurence Bagot, a French journalist who spent a year at Harvard and admits she is as mystified by American dating habits as the Americans are by the French ones: “In France, getting together just kind of happens.” In a nutshell, everyone kind of seems to think that getting together in France just kind of happens! And the funny thing is that even when people are together, you rarely know what their relationship is.One of them was, “Get the money before you take your shirt off.” What!No court, no romanticism, whatever happened to Ashton Kutcher’s spirit? Slowly I realized that I’d been fooled again by this idea of flawless America, replete with puritan mores.In America, this is categorized as 'He's just not that into you..' What is typical behaviour after dating for almost 6 months?Does anyone have insight or experience in dating the French?Furthermore, while browsing the internet on the subject, I found this recent piece The End of Courtship?
It was three years ago that I went on my first date with a French girl.
My aunt, visiting Paris from Idaho, looked proudly at my teenage sons and popped the question.
“Now,” she said, fixing a gimlet eye on her Franco-American nephews. ” She was obviously astonished to have seen lots of their “friends” but no “girlfriends” among them.
“My family and friends in the States keep asking me who I’m ‘dating’ or if I’m going to be out on a ‘date’ on Saturday night,” she lamented.
“I’m having a really hard time explaining that in France people go out in groups and then just kind of end up with each other.” We sighed.
She was from Brittany and thus had one of those terribly sexy accents that American tourists are always trying to imitate (“Eet woood be a plezzure to join yoo for deener”). As we left the restaurant and made our way along the Seine, the icy air whipped us mercilessly.